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My Happy family


My Happy family

 

Our motto:

Harmony in Family through the self-harmony!

 

8th part                                      23. 03.2007

                       Hello dear lady or sir ,

Each of us wishes our children the best. We want they will be Happy, Wealthy, Successful and Healthy.  

But only we can tech them how to become such a successful person by our personal example.

If there is no Harmony in the family, there is no Happiness and Mutual consent how a happy child can grow in such family!

I want to propose you the article of Galina Parkhomchuk – the author of the project “Intercourse with a child”. To my mind each of us will have something to think about after the reading.   

How overcome difficulties and misunderstandings in the upbringing questions

First of all the husband and the wife must realize that difficulties and misunderstanding in the upbringing questions are rooted in their families. Each family had its own way of life, orders and opinions according upbringing and treatment. Each of us accepted those rules from our families which were clearer for us and added something from our experience and education.   

There is a question: "How to combine these 2 experiences and 2 traditions?"

 1. We shouldn’t value the experience and the knowledge of each other. Wife’s or husband’s experience can’t be good or bad. It is that experience that they have for today. There are advantages and disadvantages in the knowledge and experience everyone.  It is a positive on the whole or it is existent integrity.  

2. Try to find your common principles according upbringing of your child. Put down these principles. It will help in the future to follow the fixed principles and avoid the quarrels.   
Attach the list on the visible place in your house, for example on the fridge. It will not be necessary to keep this list in the future. You will remember all principles. And you with your husband / wife will take away it from visible place solemnly and even can have a little family party! :-)

3. Find your opposite opinions according the upbringing. Put them down also. Discuss which of these opposite points you can bear and which can’t stand.    

4. Listen to each other according your disagreements.

5. Try to hear each other. It can be that your opinions are not bad or good. It is just another opinion. And if the opinions of each of us can’t harm your child you must mutually accept it. So, you just must agree that each of you have the right to realize your knowledge and your abilities for the welfare of our child.  

6. Agree and give the word to one another (and keep your word) that if one of you brings up your child (gives advice or criticizes etc.) another one doesn’t interfere this process and if it’s possible try to support a wife / husband. It will give a child the opportunity to understand that the mother and the father are a single whole and they act together. Obedience of the child, calmness and self-reliance will be result of this understanding.   

If one of you doesn’t like the methods of another, be patient, wait before your wife/husband will finish her/his educational process. And only after the finish (on no account in the presence of your child, wait for pertinent moment) sort out your relationship.  It is better to use constructive methods. Don’t shout at one another because earlier or later one of you will withdraw into oneself and it will not bring any positive results.  You shouldn’t keep your displeasure inside of you. It’s better to solve the problem by constructive way. (the book of Ю.Б.Гиппенрейтер "Общаться с ребенком. Как?" (Gyppenreyter “Communicate with a child. How?”)

7. If there is enough strength of mind, patience and kindness to perform all these 6 points (it takes a long time) you will win a most important victory in your life. For some reason it seems to me that you will win. You have already made your first stem! Don’t be afraid and make another one? Then one more and more! And everything will be OK!!! :-)

And one more remark. If you are married for a not long time you should to know that attrition of your characters can last for 5 years. And maybe your child wasn’t to blame. But nevertheless my strategy which I described above is almost universal.


And what is the most important! Both of you must want to change your family for the best.

Galina Parkhomchuk, the author and the head of the project http://www.obsheniye.ru/

 

 

Give Love, give Smiles and Good mood.

There is the universal rule – the more you give, the more you get!

Feel yourself a Wealthy person. Only that person who has something to share can present and give something!

Love YOU and your relatives!

With the best wishes,

the author of the project

Nadegda Kazantseva

 

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