«Radislav Gandapas: understanding in family opens new opportunities» by Pavel Verbnyak.
Radislav Gandapas is, perhaps, the most famous specialist at oratory and leadership in Russia. He believes that support of the family is one of the keys to success for each of its members.
Radislav asserts that such support is important in any business, no matter what you are doing. Just imagine a family, in which the wife considers her husband’s occupation ridiculous and his children are ashamed of him.
The businessman told the story of his friends. The head of the family was an actor. It should be mentioned that he was not an average one. He won the Best Actor award in the competition in Holland. He was an honored performer, he toured Japan and had a huge success and earnings in currency. Everything seemed to be fine, except one detail, he worked as an actor of puppet theater. He participated in the performances for adults, which were more complex and dramatic than those for children.
Most people cannot imagine a serious puppet show. His wife could not accept this. She lamented: «You are in your forties, and you’re still playing with dolls. Maybe you will find another occupation? » She could not understand this kind of work, she was far from everything connected with it — form talent, rehearsals, drama of actor. Of course, children were ashamed to tell that their father worked in a puppet theater. They represented him simply as an actor. If they were asked, they hid details.
You can imagine his feelings and sufferings. It is very hard, when the job, which you value, is depreciated by your family. He is a recognized expert in his field, holds master classes, young actors from other cities come to see him, audiences in Europe, America and Japan applaud him. And when he comes home, he is met by disapproval and blame. Family members think of him as an earner, not as a person.
This story illustrates the situation, in which a person has to separate work and family. He does not talk about his art at home, he has nobody to share his problems. But if your family understands you and talks about your work, it makes you fly.
One more example. Imagine a person who works in the Moscow office. Suddenly, he is sent to Tyumen for a couple of years. He is offered a promotion and a higher salary. It is clear that the cost of his labor increases dramatically. But imagine that this idea is not supported by his family. Close people should understand that the work and business of a person is not just what he does, but everything related to it.
If the family does not approve such a promotion, if the wife worries that she will have to leave the capital with its vibrant night life and to move to some kind of forest, how can he move forward? Such things are not uncommon and are relevant to everyone, whose activity is associated with changes. Therefore, many men know that lack of support from spouses can make you give up your favorite activity or leave your beloved woman. Otherwise, a person has to divide life into two parts.
(You can read the full interview with Radislav Gandapas here: http://verbnyak.com/radislav-gandapas-treniruyte-volyu-a-ne-telo and http://verbnyak.com/radislav-gandapas-uspeh-otslova-uspet-chast-1)
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